Sep 13, 2010

Popinjay: Selfless

Michelle's Popinjay for this week is Selfless. I've spent a considerable amount of time visiting Nana at the nursing home this past week so maybe that's why this photo comes to mind when I think of the word "Selfless."
You see, on first thought, Selfless makes me think of the caregivers. The ones who repeatedly, tirelessly visit the shut-ins, denying their own agenda, goals, desires. The ones who visit regardless. Consistently, even when it hurts, even when it costs. Even when it frustrates. Even when it feels unappreciated.
But then I thought about Nana and the others who require the care of the caregivers. And the term "Selfless" took on a new meaning. Self Less. Less Self. Nana can't decide for herSELF what to eat for dinner. Nana can't decide for herSELF when to bathe or wash her hair. Nana can't decide for herSELF when to visit someone. Nana can't decide for herSELF when to watch her shows or where to set her AC temperature. And when there is no personal choice, no self-consideration in your daily routine, isn't that really Selfless?


Anonymous said...

I LOVE the word for the day!!

I just got done seeing nana,and EVERY 2 mins.she is begging for a COLD drink. I could hardly tear myself away.

Thanks for this post!!!

~michelle pendergrass said...

Ohmygosh. What a heart-wrenching thought. I never even considered what you've said. And my grandma passed away after a lengthy stay in an nursing home and my mom just passed away in June after losing her battle with cancer--she had a brain tumor on her right frontal lobe that left her with no cognitive thinking skills. So I lived this example with them and only now am thinking about it from this perspective.

Thank you for letting me see it this way.